Do you find yourself struggling to get your marriage back on the right track? Have you taken the time to narrow down or identify what the real problems are in your marriage? If you didn't know already, maintaining a healthy marriage by itself takes a lot of work. And, if you're having many problems in your marriage at the moment, then you probably know you have even more work to do to sort it all out. But, do you really know what makes marriage work and if you're doing the right things to get your marriage back on track? Maybe this will help.
When married couples begin having problems that haven't been brought on by a major blow to the marriage like addiction or cheating on one another, it usually comes down to a disruption in the balance of things within your marriage. One of you starts to feel like you're not getting all you need or that the other is selfish. This feeling can become, for lack of better words, a small wound in the marriage that continues bleeding without notice. Eventually, one of you can't take it anymore, and it has built up for so long that there's really no easy solution in sight, since it's pretty much spilled over into every part of your lives.
What happens is, this small wound in the marriage has actually created what seems like a number of reasons why one of you is unhappy in the marriage, when in reality it all comes back to this lack of balance between the both of you. Sometimes it's very difficult for the other spouse to see this and may seem impossible to get them to understand.
What you have to do, if you're the spouse experiencing this lack of balance in your marriage is to begin taking note. You may have it all in your head all of the ways you feel like you've been short changed in the marriage. But when it comes to letting it all out or getting your point across to try an explain to your spouse how you're feeling and how it's affecting your marriage, it doesn't quite come out the way you want it. What you need to do is write it down.
Sit down, and make a list of what is bothering you most. As you write it down, or after you've made a good list of your best points, begin running through your head the best way to get this across to your spouse. What you have to do is start to make a comparison to things in your spouses everyday life that you can use as examples. Something that they will better respond too. It's hard to get them at first to see it through your eyes or from your perspective, but if you use things that they're used to dealing with or affect them everyday it will help get your points across a lot better.
Basically, this is a "what if this was me, doing this to you" list. This will help you for one, getting everything into words which helps tremendously to express fully the point you're trying to make. Two, getting your point across in a way that your spouse will understand and can compare to how it would affect them if you were doing the same things.
Sometimes, this can be all you need to get your spouse to see your side and open them up to change.
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All my best to you and your spouse!
Source: Ezine
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