Marriage - What Women Look for in Their Husband - The Perfect Man

Women often have an idealistic impression of their perfect husband, but often the reality is more grounded. Committing to live with someone on a daily basis suddenly brings the reality of sharing ones space into focus. Few people want to live with perfection. Many women accept the perfect man as being a regular guy, and it is often his unique flaws, characteristics and traits that make him special.

- Humour is a very important quality in a husband. Laughter and good humour are often regarded as more important than looks. Someone who doesn't take things too seriously all the time, is able to improve tense situations and has sensitivity and understanding when accidents happen or when things go wrong is worth his weight in gold.

- Appreciation is often an important quality in the perfect husband. Someone who realises that when freshly laundered shirts appear in his wardrobe or dinner appears on the table that someone has taken time to facilitate those things happening. Toothpaste and toilet rolls are replaced, but not by magic. Some households share the chores but either way, appreciating each others contribution is important.

Also appreciation of her as a person, still seeing her as attractive, noticing that she looks nice. Many women need to be reassured that their husband still finds them attractive, especially after they have had a baby. Also, valuing when she makes an effort to be considerate and do special things for him, the thoughtful gestures done to please and show love for him.

Appreciation, too, of the times when she is tired, has had a tough day and needs a bit of space. Some men expect their wife to be there for them all the time. Life is about reciprocation and understanding, appreciating someone else's situation at times.

- Listening makes a huge difference to women. Having an attentive mate who will sit and listen is a major display of support. Often women are happy just to say what's on their mind, to unburden themselves. That can be enough to make them feel better, knowing that someone is listening in a supportive way. Often a woman will not need someone to intervene and sort out problem situations. Sometimes simply recognising how it is for her is fine.

- Empathy means understanding and acknowledging how someone feels. So if a woman is at home all day with young children she may well want to hear about her husband's day at the office. It may be the only interesting connection she has had with the outside world. Some women leave dynamic jobs to become a mother. It can be frustrating at times to spend the whole day with a child. An empathic husband appreciates the importance of adult conversation even if he is tired, or is happy to allow her time to go and have a leisurely bath while he puts the children to bed.

- Interest. Being interested in spending time together, maybe starting shared activities so that some quality time can be spent together is important. Having someone who actively wants to be with her makes a woman feel special.

- Honesty is many people's number one quality. Being open and honest means that communications are frequent and trustworthy. Hearing bad news is equally important. There are few things worse than hearing bad news later than everyone else. Sharing and being included as part of a couple matters.

- Practical.Many households have jobs that are considered 'his' and 'hers'. These may be different jobs in different households but are a fundamental part of the successful running of the home. Some jobs are confrontational, like dirty socks on the floor, damp towels on the bed, putting the toilet seat down, but finding a way to respect each other and the smooth running of the home is important.

There are many criteria that make a perfect husband. Often feeling loved and valued are number one. Many women want a lover, an ally, maybe a friend, someone who wants to spend time with them and enjoys their company. Often the other factors are a bonus.

Source: Ezine