Marriage - A Little Romance Can Save Your Marriage

Take your mind back to the early days of your relationship. There was something present in those days of courtship which has probably faded somewhat. Do you remember romance? Oh yeah, that! Remember how those days felt? Putting a touch of romance back into your marriage can bring back some of those feelings and keep them alive. It's easy to find ways to save your marriage when you can rekindle those early days of romance and passion.

It is quite natural for these feelings of romance to gradually fade from a marriage. The pressures life brings to bear on a marriage every day will leave less and less time and inclination to keep romance to the forefront. However, this does not mean that both partners no longer desire the love and affection and these needs should not be ignored. The situation can also exist where one of the partners is committed to keeping romance alive but the other ignores it. This can lead to a strain on the relationship.

Think of ways you can surprise your partner and put a touch of romance back into your marriage. A candle-lit dinner for two is great but don't neglect the small things. Leave a love note where it can be found sometime during the day -- under a kettle, in a wallet, stuck to a mirror -- use your imagination. Leave a flower on their pillow (check it for creepy crawlies first!). Go for a walk in the park or along a beach.

If you have children, organise a babysitter or grandparents to take them for a few hours or, better still, overnight. Get out by yourselves once every month or two and free yourself from some of life's responsibilities for a while. Don't go on a guilt trip about a few hours spent away from responsibilities either -- you owe it to yourself and your partner to put some zest back into your relationship to help it keep growing.

Make time for each other so you can enjoy these moments together. Schedule work commitments so the time can be there when you need it. If you cannot make time for your relationship you will surely find it on that downward spiral. Often, we throw ourselves into tackling the responsibilities of life so thoroughly we forget our relationships need a level of care also. A marriage will certainly run on auto-pilot for a while but someone still needs to fill the tank with fuel and perform maintenance now and again otherwise it will slide out of the sky.

Find a way to do something romantic today. It doesn't have to be anything major or time-consuming, remember the note and the flower? Just do something now, don't put it off until later because later has a habit of never coming around. Sit down and write a quick list of ideas you can use over the next days, weeks and months. Keep your list with you to add new ideas to and to remind you of old ideas. Try some random acts of romance now to save your marriage and build a loving, lasting relationship.

Source: Ezine