Marriage - Wondering If Your Marriage Is Worth Saving?

Sometimes maintaining a happy marriage can take a lot out of us. Then again, you sometimes look around you and it seems as if other couples make it seem so easy. Your often left to wonder what it is about your marriage that makes keeping it happy so difficult or why you continue to have problems in the marriage that no one else seems to be going through but you. This is probably a good time to make sure that your marriage is worth saving or if it will forever be an uphill battle for you and your spouse to find middle ground that you both can agree with and maintain to ensure a long lasting happy marriage.

First of all, let's examine some common reasons that people get married and if you're marriage fits into any of these areas.

• You were high school sweethearts and as soon as you were of age you tied the knot.
• You've dated for several years, maybe even started living together and thought it was the right next step to complete your relationship.
• You've been together or dated for sometime, and now a baby is on the way and may now be or feel like it's the right thing to do or have been pressured into thinking it's the right thing to do.
• You've just met, have fell head over heals for one another and are headed to Vegas to tie the knot, or you might have even met in Vegas and have gotten hitched in an eventful night or weekend.
• Your involved in some sort of legal issue, where you have to marry in order for it to go through or come about.
• You have become consumed with the thought of marriage and just want to be married for the sake of being married as some sort of status recognition.

While I may have just touched on some of the most common reasons for couples who think they should get married, it's made up of a lot of marriages that aren't going to stand the test of time or for that matter aren't going to be easy to save.

Marriage should be something that is done for all the right reasons. Not from impulse or from the line of thinking it's the right thing to do. It should come from an unwavering love for one another. A sign of total commitment to one another and set up to see each other through for better or worse. Your spouse should be your best friend and you should cherish everything about them, even the things that may seem annoying.

If you aren't in a relationship that is like this or you are at the point that you can't really stand anything about your spouse, then you should seriously consider if whether or not this marriage is worth saving. Did you marry for all the wrong reasons? Rather than continue to torture one another with trying to make things work, knowing full well that neither one of you will ever agree or find common ground or change for one another, then maybe it is best that you both part ways so that you can move on with your lives and find someone who will be better for you.

I'm not advocating divorce by far, but sometimes people get married for the wrong reasons and it's just not going to last or work. If you don't think that it's anything like that, and you just have some minor issues to work through, than definitely continue on your path to save your marriage.

Source: Ezine