Marriage - Saving Your Marriage By Yourself

Who ever said or put it in stone that it's going to take two of you to save your marriage? Just because your spouse is being slightly bull headed or doesn't want to talk about saving the marriage with you, doesn't mean that you still can't do it. It may take a little more work, but then again it could be easier without them in the beginning to get in your way or knock down any of your ideas.

For starters, not having your spouse involved early on helps. What I mean is, your spouse may have already made clear to you that they don't want to talk about it anymore. At first, this may seem devastating that you can no longer get through to your spouse on things you'd like to do or are willing to do to save the marriage. It's perfectly natural to feel this way. But, the way this may help is that you no longer feel or have the urge to be constantly at their ear about the marriage, nor are you hanging on to that thread of hope most spouses dangle along to get what they want out of all of this chaos.

This also gives you time to cope and deal with some of the emotions you have running through your head without adding any additional stress or arguments over the marriage. You have time now to sort your thoughts and gain some focus on what it is you need to do to gain back your spouses favor.

You see, some of the worst damage that can be done to a marriage is in this sensitive time when you and your spouse are normally going back and forth with one another over who's fault all of this is. You may have already went these rounds with your spouse, but as of now most of the communication between the both of you may be shut down. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing at the moment. It should aid you in avoiding battles with your spouse that can result in more damage and sort of puts that on hold for a while. Which is for the most part to your advantage, as you're no longer tempted to get your point across, regardless of it's consequences as you might normally be.

What's most important now, is your focus on a plan to save your marriage. More than likely, you know your spouse better than anyone else. You know what pushes their buttons. You know what pleases them. And, most of all you know what types of things they best respond too. Without them in the way or constantly knocking down your ideas or plans to save your marriage, you can move ahead with what you think and have learned to work with your spouse over the years. Without them even knowing it, you can begin taking steps to save your marriage. There are a lot of psychological and reverse psychology maneuvers that you can begin putting into action starting today, you just have to muster up the courage to start doing them.

Source: Ezine