Marriage - Save Your Marriage - How Giving Your Spouse What They Need Could Save It

When you and your spouse became serious about each other, there was a level of passion for one another that seemed like it could never end. You both were highly attracted to one another as well and would just about do anything for your lover at this point. But, over time, many things have changed and that passion has slowly faded or has been shadowed by other changes in your life that have slowly taken precedence over it. You may not realize it yet, but losing this passion for each other can be the sole reason of many marriage problems. I'd like to share some ideas with you that might help to reinsert this passion back into your marriage.

First, lets take a look at what this means through both a male and female perspective. Usually, for the male this passion is normally fulfilled on a more physical level. For the female, it's more emotional, but physical still plays an important part. Men are normally satisfied if they can have sex or physical pleasure on a consistent basis, where women will want their emotional needs to be satisfied.

What happens, is these can begin to work against each other over time and even conflict with each other. The women may become more reluctant to have sex with her male partner because her feelings and emotional needs aren't being met. The male, in some ways now feels the same way. Their needs aren't being met, so why should he make the effort to fulfill her needs. Now, this marriage has become deadlocked in a vicious standstill of a cycle where neither one of your needs are being met and has now become a problem that spills over into other parts of your lives.

This begins to affect how you treat one another in every part of your lives. You can become resentful and selfish. Meaning you begin to carry this chip on your shoulder so to speak for your spouse. It can drive a wedge in between the both of you that will slowly chip away at your marriage bit by bit, as this feeling of not having your needs met begins to dictate every other decision you make concerning your spouse. Thoughts like " she's not doing this for me, so why should I do that for her" or "he doesn't care how I feel or make any effort to show me, so why should I care about him".

You can see or maybe even have experienced this already how it can begin to tear your marriage apart. What's important now is, "you" make an effort now. If you love your spouse, then put all of the rest of your reserved feelings to the side. Don't worry or get the thought out of your head of who should make the first attempt at this. You'd be amazed at how stubborn not having your needs met can make you, but you'd be even more amazed at how you taking the first step can really change the direction in which your marriage is heading.

Don't let your ego get in the way or feel like you have to make a point. Just let all of that go, and do it. Why risk making things worse by focusing on getting your way. Put on your big boy/girl pants and step up to the plate. Show your wife how much you care. Take care of your husband where he needs it. All in all, it's about taking care of the one you love, regardless of whether the score is even. You'll eventually get what you put out.

Source: Ezine