There isn't a moment that goes by in your day that you're not thinking about what you need to do to save your marriage. You may have even begun to make a short list of things that you might have done wrong over the years and wish you could take back. But, regardless of how consumed you are right now of what went wrong and how your going to make things right, if ever, you can still save your marriage with a little bit of hard work and courage to do what's needed.
First of all, have you determined what your core or main issues are with your current marriage problems? Have you cheated or been involved in some sort of affair that has now jeopardized your marriage? This can be one of the hardest marriage problems to work through, just to be honest. If you have, than you have a long road ahead of you. You may not realize it yet or it hasn't quite set in the damage this has done to your marriage. You have betrayed the person who trusted you most, and that's a hard trust to get back, for that matter if your spouse will even have you back. Sometimes, cheating can never be overcome, and for good reason.
If it isn't one of you who has cheated, then let's move on. Is it something that has outside influence over one of you that's causing your marriage problems? This can be a number of things. This can be one spouse who is working too much or has a boss that is extra demanding of your spouses time. A spouse who let's others dictate their actions or behavior like friends or family. "You always act that way or treat me like that when you're around so and so". If this is the case, then let's put into perspective whose relationship you value most. This isn't to say that you should choose, but rather you should take steps to change the dynamics of this situation. Recognize how you behave around those people and change it so it doesn't continue to disrupt what could be an otherwise happy marriage. This is really an easier marriage problem to work through, as you have control to change it.
Are there deeper issues at play here? Have you been neglecting your spouse, not giving them the attention they need or recognizing their fair share in the say so in the relationship? Are you continuously misinterpreting one another or taking each other the wrong way? Does one of your pasts continue to haunt you or dictate your decisions today? These kinds of marriage problems are more easily manageable. Sometimes a little bit of personal counseling or couples exercises can help resolve these and similar issues pretty fast. There isn't any reason to lose hope.
You see, many times we make our marriage problems out to be more difficult to solve than they should. It has a lot to do with misunderstanding one another that often escalates things beyond what we consider to be easily manageable. If you haven't cheated on your spouse or one of you isn't physically abusive, then your marriage issues have a much stronger chance of being resolved than those with that type of marriage problem. Just don't make them any harder than they have to be or make them into something they're not. Identify your root problems and take steps to correct them.
It's all up to you! If you don't take this action to save your marriage, then who will?
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All my best to you and your spouse!
Source: Ezine