This may seem a little to simple at first, but it can help change the direction a marriage is headed pretty fast if you just do it. Sometimes, we make things harder on ourselves or tend to over analyze what's really going on. What can follow is a sort of stand still or as if you're stuck in a rut. These 3 steps could be all you need to start the course of events that lead to saving your marriage.
1. Change Your Attitude: This might seem a little far fetched, considering you're most likely an emotional wreck. Which is completely normal and the only reason I say it like that. This kind of emotional cocktail so to speak stirring about your every move and every action is causing you to lose focus. Your not going to think very clearly on what to do next if you can't get a hod of yourself. Do your best to lift your spirits and change your perception of your situation. It may seem grim or as if you're at a loss as to what to do, but remain positive and put anything negative on the back burner. One of my favorite things to do, is to play the old Bob Marley song "Three Little Birds". It may seem silly, but it really helps. Give it a search on youtube, play it a few times and really let it sink in. Just try it!
2. Forget about the past: As hard as I know it is to do, let it go. There's probably a ton of things that have happened over the years that have brought the both of you to this crossroads. But, if there are some things in the past that you're still trying to hold on to or holding over your spouses head, this could have a lot to do with why you're having troubles now. It will take some time to totally forget, but do see how holding on is affecting you now. Brush those things off and start over. A troubled marriage needs a clean slate in order to rebuild, especially to be better than before.
3. Help Yourself: There's nothing like feeling alone in your efforts to save your marriage. And, for the most part you are. Although you may be able to explain some things to friends and family about your marriage, there's just some parts that you may not exactly feel comfortable going into details about. Some of those things can in fact be the main reason for your marriage troubles and their hard to go over with others. That's where learning how to deal with some of these issues yourself will come into play and where privately handling them are needed in some cases. Taking the action to learn through marriage self-help books or speaking with a marriage therapist about them confidentially can make a huge difference in working through marriage problems.
I hope the simplicity of this list of steps will open your eyes to not over complicate your marriage troubles. That's all it really takes to get your marriage headed in the right direction. Change your attitude, forget about the past and take action to learn what it is you should do next by talking to a professional or learning through self-help books on saving a marriage.
It's all up to you! If you don't take action to save your marriage, then who will?
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All my best to you and your spouse!
Source: Ezine