Have you ever known a couple in a relationship whose life seems lived together in a state of love and harmony? Who even after many years, still seem like newlyweds?
So do you believe that such a perfect loving relationship can exist and survive the passing of time? Or is it just a fairy tale found only in books and romantic movies?
Let me tell you a story about love
Many years ago, when I was only 22 years old, I was sitting on a hard wooden bench in a rundown train winding its way through the mountains of Peru. After many hours of the lurching motion, I had drifted off to a state halfway between waking and sleeping; when I had the most remarkable experience.
Although the wooden bench was empty except for me, I suddenly felt as if a beautiful woman was sitting next to me. She reached over and took my hand, and I felt an overwhelming feeling that she was just around the corner. She sat beside me for many minutes with such a feeling of intense love before gradually fading away.
Was it just a dream or a glimpse of my future? I still don't know.
That strong feeling, that my soulmate was just around the corner and is almost within reach, stayed with me for several months. I met many women and kept asking myself is she the one? Somehow I always knew that it wasn't.
Still, I knew my soulmate was just around the corner. Sure enough, about four months after the experience on the train, I met Sofan. She was living in a little apartment on the rough side of Chicago, painting her dreams.
The intensity of the experience as our hearts were opened in love to each other took us both by surprise. We were instantly transported together to an amazing place full of laughter, happiness and bliss.
We have been in this state now for many, many years. Our happiness together has survived parenting 3 children, countless travels, many financial ups and downs and many of the things that most couple in a relationship experience, both good and bad.
Many people are constantly asking us, "What is the secret in keeping the love and passion alive in a relationship after so many years together?" We've given this question a lot of thought and now we'd like to share these secrets with you.
Secret 1 - Maintain the passion of falling in love
Do you remember when you first fell in love? Was it an amazing time when your passions burned so brightly that they were visible to everyone around you? Nothing else seemed to matter except the joy of being with the one you loved.
Too often, this flame burns very brightly for just a short time from the beginning of the relationship and then fades out when day to day busy lives take over. That raw passion diminishing over time is quite natural, as the relationship develops and grows into something greater. However it is essential not to let this flame die out completely. Make the time to do fun and romantic things together. Leave the kids at home, leave work where it belongs -at work, leave your friends behind and go spend "alone" time together.
Secret 2 - Communicate and share your dreams
Do you remember at the start of your relationship, when you were holding your lover in your arms and talking about your secrets and dreams? Some people manage to merge their dreams together into something which is achievable for both of them, and some let their dreams just fade away and die. A life without dreams is a very sad and dull thing indeed.
What is very important in maintaining a loving relationship is that one person's dreams don't overpower the other persons. A true loving relationship is one of support and sharing the load in helping your partner achieve their dreams. However, it has to work both ways.
Too often though, one person has a dream or a plan, and unconsciously assumes that their partner automatically shares this dream. It is very important to talk and communicate your dreams with your partner. The best way is when you can merge your lives into a shared dream. Understand that when two people dream their lives together, nothing can stand in their way.
Secret 3 - Create a shared home in your hearts together
Do you remember a special shared moment when you felt both of your hearts beating together in perfect synchronicity? Home is not just a physical place. It is a heartfelt space created when two people come together in a state of love and understanding. It a special place filled with warm and nurturing feelings where both people feel safe and secure.
Like any good home, there must first be strong foundations for a loving relationship to be built on. Over time, each loving action you perform in your relationship adds another brick to your special home. There is an old expression "Home is where the heart is" perhaps it means that your home is where your two hearts merge together.
Secret 4 - Let every day have at least one kiss and one playful moment
Can you remember a moment of childlike perfection when the joy of being alive and with someone you loved filled your being? A time when just being with the person you loved made you want to laugh and filled you with a childlike energy. It is so important never to let a day go by without kissing your partner. (And meaning it too!)
Sharing laughter and playing together is a great way to renew your feelings of love. So make sure that every day you give your beloved a kiss and a smile. It's not always easy, but it is always important. A relationship is not just something that happens in a day. Life with your soulmate is a daily experience over a lifetime. So every day is important. Strive for everyday to have at least one playful moment of shared childlike joy.
Secret 5 - Surround yourself with artworks that radiate love and happiness
The experience of Love is priceless. Can you imagine creating a special place in your home that radiates such warm and loving energy?
The right inspirational art will serve as a powerful, daily, visual reminder of the power of love and will encourage you to experience a happier and more loving relationship.
How it works is very simple. What you hold in your mind on a day to day basis determines what you will experience in your life. By placing loving artworks in a special location in your house every time you see them your unconscious mind will start to think more thoughts of love and happiness. Gradually your thoughts become more consciously loving until you find your life and your relationship filled with love and happiness.
When you place these art works about love in your sacred space you will create a special room filled with loving and harmonious energy for both of you to share, a place where only love can enter.
The point of this story is that if this state of happiness and love in a relationship can still exist for us, then - Love and happiness can also exist for you as well.
Love's existence is on a higher spiritual level.
May your life be filled with Love and Happiness!
Inspirational Artist, Rochman Reese creates inspirational artworks that will inspire you to experience more love, happiness and tranquility in your life.
You can view inspirational pictures of his artworks, and read more inspirational articles at http://www.theartofhappiness.net -be inspired.
Source: Ezine