It can be extremely devastating, when there is no trust or trust is broken in a marriage. It took so much time to build the trust between you two and now that bond of trust is broken. Now you have to rebuild the trust again, so is there any way of rebuilding the trust in your marriage? Of course there are ways to do it.
When a partner has cheated, it doesn't mean that he or she would do it again. There are a number of reasons for cheating. The reasons for extramarital affair do not matter, but what matters is if your partner will repeat the same mistake. How can you know if you can trust him or her again?
The question is when a spouse cheats, whose mistake is that? Is it your spouse who has made the mistake? Or you for neglecting them? But it really doesn't matter who is at fault at the time. What matters is that you want to fix or save your marriage and you want to build the trust once again.
No one can give you the assurance that your spouse will not cheat on you again, but you have to decide whether you are ready to take that chance or not. If your spouse admits to having an affair, there is a chance that they will not make that mistake again. If your spouse is more than willing to work through it with you, regardless of the memories or visions it may stir up, then your spouse will most likely go the extra mile to ensure that they will never do it again.
Why do spouses cheat? Sometimes a partner starts to feel that the other partner doesn't love them anymore and they feel that they are being neglected, they start to look for that love outside their marriage.
How can you fix it and or prevent it? You can start by complimenting your spouse. Don't go overboard while giving compliments or gifts, but tell them something like you look nice, or they are your world. Your spouse should feel that you love and appreciate them. Take the time to make time for your spouse, regardless of what you have going on or deadline you may have, or for that matter work that's forever piling up.
Talk things over with your spouse. Ask them about their feelings and ask if they are seeing some problems in the marriage. Talk to them about how you can both work it out together and fix the marriage. Gain your spouses perspective, walk in their shoes for a moment so you can get a better idea of how they may be feeling and what you should do to fix it. Let them know that you want to rebuild the trust between you two in your marriage.
Your spouse knows very well that they'll be working over time to gain the trust back. Give them the benefit of the doubt and help them with trying to rebuild the trust by offering comforting ideas that will help put your mind at ease. See if they keep their promises, start with small tasks and see if they are successful in holding up to those promises.
Baby steps for the most part will be needed to rebuild the trust in a marriage. Slowly but surely you'll begin to feel more at ease with your spouse. It will take some time, just be aware of that and don't expect it to happen overnight so you don't add anymore stress or disappointment to an already fragile relationship.
It's all up to you! If you don't take this action to save your marriage, then who will?
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Source: Ezine