Marriage - A Few Tips About Making Your Husband Attracted to You Again

How can I make my husband more attracted to me? This is the most common question asked by wives. What makes the husband attracted to his wife? The first thing that you should know is your husband's affection towards you is not only because of your looks. Of course, looks and physical appearance do play an important role, but it is not the only thing that matters. Contrary to popular belief, a majority of husbands are attracted to their wives because they make them feel good about themselves.

You may think that this is silly or over simplified, but this is really a very important concept. Men are more attracted to those women who make them feel they are funny, smart, powerful, successful, attractive and competent. Men become more attracted to women that they assume will make their situations and lives better. They are more likely to be attracted to a happy, light hearted and confident woman that can bring happiness into their lives.

If all you do is talk about or bring up everyday worries, problems, issues of life, and the negative implications brought on by these things, it will seriously impact your husband's feelings about you. Many women worry or wonder why their husbands aren't coming to them, why he doesn't act like he's attracted to them anymore and also wonder what is at the heart of what seems like a loss of affection and attention from him. And, 9 times out of 10, this assumption is at the core of it all, your husbands assumptions that everything is always negative with you..

When I say this, many of you may be wondering, are you supposed to put on some kind of show, that everything is alright when it's not? Not at all, but more than likely your husband knows about all pressing matters, has enough concern on his plate and more than aware of other negative things within your lives. But, at the end of the day your husband is looking forward to time with you, it should be one of his most positive lights within his life. One to help lift his spirits back up when things get bad, not add to it constantly. Do your best to help him see the silver lining in all aspects of life or even if things are really bad, help to keep him positive by you being positive.

Another thing that comes up is whether or not you should alter your appearance. In some cases, this can help, but is sometimes viewed as a shallow approach to gaining your husbands favor. Your husband married you for who you were at the time, and was obviously more than happy to do so. But, over time many things can change, including your appearance.

This can range from extreme weight gain, aging, or changes brought about by a birth of a child etc.. But, altering your appearance to reignite the flame between the both of you should be a last or drastic measure. A decision that should be carefully considered and reserved only as a final attempt and only after you've improved the other areas in your relationship. Because, if you don't get the other parts right, then the effects of altering your appearance will be short lived, as other parts of the marriage are still the predominant problem.

Source: Ezine