Love - Making Sure You're in Love Not Lust

Have you found that dating guides seem to be one in a million? It seems today that everyone is an expert on relationships, but lasting relationships are seldom developed in our day and age. Dating How To is a guide founded on principles to help individuals find something that will last forever. The greatest relationships are like a diamond placed upon a ring symbolizing how they are to last through the eternities. Young girls from an early age have listened to the stories of the prince rescuing the princess; the conquering hero comes to save the damsel in distress. They hear the song "One Day My Prince Will Come." They melt instantly as dreams are conjured up and their imaginations run wild. Waking up to what is real and finding that it is mostly fantasy can be like waking up to a bad dream. People still need to work; they still need to provide for the necessities of life.

The competition can seem brutal, quite similar to swimming in a pool of sharks. Can I make a suggestion? Though it may seem this way, and as the saying is so cliche, remember, my dear friends, the fish in the sea are many. Should it not be more about finding the right person? How many times must we break our own hearts because we were not careful? Do we let jealousy and envy enter into us to drive us to do crazy things? Have you ever been persuaded by these natural feelings to make irrational decisions? we can avoid this by putting off lustful desires in order to really get to know someone first. Finding the right person is different from finding "the one." There are many people that could be "the one."

The questions that I want to answer, and points I want to cover are how do you find the right person for you? How do you keep and manage a relationship so that it can last forever? How to remove obstacles to help you achieve your goals when it comes to relationships? Within these thee questions lies even more questions that will need answering. It is never an easy thing to do... finding and keeping someone to love and to love you. Diamonds are forever, can relationships be the same?

Attraction and Fear, two emotions that could be the death of you.

Attraction stirs up strange emotions. So does the fear of losing someone or something. These two ideas have a lot of contrast in all relationships. Sometimes we can become so focused on our fears of losing someone that we don't notice all that is around us, all the opportunities we have to connect with others. Attraction can also cause us to go blind to all that is around us, a feeling of magic, a warm whimsical feeling that causes us to be lighter on our feet. How do we deal with these emotions?

The other fish in the sea.

Becoming blind to all the other fish around you can be a good thing if you and your partner are ready to both be committed to eachother. The feeling has to be mutual though. Otherwise keep an open heart and an open mind.

Lust, the root of our fears.

The first initial interaction between two people is because they somehow found each other attractive. As conversation progresses and they become more flirtatious they develop a deeper attraction for one another. This is where one has to be careful and recognize the "i want to get in your pants" syndrome. Lust will not last but a day, to a few weeks. Love is something much more

Love, where to center our desires.

We can control our desires and wants. Love is a completely different feeling from the initial attraction and lustful desires at the start of a relationship, Love has more meaning and it takes more work. Love is figuring out what the other person needs and then being it, providing it, or simply just listening and fulfilling it.

In summary, if you want something that lasts, do the things that will make it happen. Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings always. Carbon that is pressed within the earth and heated is the recipe for a diamond. A relationship tried and pressed through the furnace of time is one that will last forever. Aren't diamonds the same way?

Source: Ezine