Love - "Does He Really Love Me?" How to Find Out

Do you find yourself asking yourself over and over again: "Does he really love me?" Is it difficult to tell how the man you care about really feels? Wouldn't it be great if you had some sure-fire ways to know that a guy cares? Unless you're a psychic, you can't really ever know completely for sure what someone else is thinking. But you can learn to pick up clues by paying attention to someone's body language, tone of voice, and the words themselves. Next time you ask yourself: "Does he really love me?" - you may be able to learn the answer for yourself, if you follow these clues:

Pay attention to his body language.

Words can lie, but your body language usually doesn't. When you're with a guy you care about, watch how he acts around you. Does he make regular eye contact, or is his look evasive-- or even bored? Does he stand or sit close to you when he talks, or does he shrink away? Does he frequently touch you when you're together - not just in a sexual way, but gently and affectionately? Take a look at his face. When he sees you, does his face light up, or does it cloud over? Often we ignore signs that are right in front of us, because they contradict what someone is telling us, or what we want to believe. But nothing is more telling than the expression on a man's face when he spots the woman he loves. There's a sparkle in his eyes, and a hint of a smile on his lips. "Does he really love me?" If he looks at you like that, the answer is yes.

Listen to what he says - and how he says it.

No one is saying that you shouldn't pay any attention to what a man says, but sometimes you have to read between the lines and pay attention to the tone of his voice. Most men aren't as comfortable as women at expressing their feelings. Particularly in the early stages of a relationship, be suspicious if a guy is turning on too much of the "I love you, I love you" routine. He may just be a player, and you're looking for genuine emotion. But listen to the sound of your fellow's voice when he speaks to you. Is his voice flat or animated? Does he speak softly and gently to you, or his voice harsh? And what does he talk about with you? If he's starting to share his thoughts and feelings, and not just the events of the day, that's a good sign, too. He's letting barriers down if he's sharing more revealing subjects with you. "Does he really love me?" If his words are open and his tone is gentle, his heart may be full.

No two men are alike, and you should be careful about any generalizations. Your guy may love to talk about his feelings or he may have a stoic expression on his face no matter what happens. But in general, paying attention to his behavior around you, including his body language and speech, will give you important clues about how he feels about you. Ask yourself again: "Does he really love me?" Next time you may know the answer before you have to ask.

Source: Ezine