Love - Looking for Love This New Year? Find Yourself First!

Are you a single woman whose spent years trying to find the perfect mate? Do you feel like your life is less than fulfilling because you don't have anyone to 'share' it with? Have you sacrificed your femininity and self-confidence because you don't have a 'significant other'?

Sometimes a woman can spend so much time looking for who she wants that she has no time to be who she is. But an enlightened woman knows who she is - why she is at a certain place in her life - where she is gong and how to get there.

Here are four (4) ways to develop the savvy to attract a mate that thinks the world of you because you think the world of yourself:

1. Identify your gifts and purpose. Defining your purpose means knowing your passion, and identifying what you enjoy doing...then doing it! We must bring a strong sense of self & purpose into a relationship... a sense of excitement about yourself and your life and the vision you have for both.

2. Acknowledge your Personal Power. Personal Power comes from within and depends upon you approving of YOU. When you know your power, you attract people into your life that bring more than they take, in terms of your emotional well being, your self-development and your personal growth.

3. Resolve that settling is NOT an option. Too many women do bargain
basement shopping. They operate in a 'spirit of lack'; happy with whatever comes along as long as it doesn't cost much.

Women who settle:
- Will accept whatever a man brings into her life, even if it's not fulfilling.
- Does not acknowledge her own brilliance and sacrifices to 'please her man'.
- Let's her past dictate her actions of which the basis was fear of failure.
- It does not serve anyone when you don't "raise the bar" on whom you allow in your life.

4. Develop and Trust your Inner Spirit. An enlightened woman knows that her secret weapon is her spirituality, and that everything she believes, thinks and does is guided and directed by her inner spirit. You draw your spirit power from listening to your inner voice and placing your life in the middle of God's activity, so that you find a whole new way of looking at life beginning to unfold for you. A woman who lives from the inside out emanates an extraordinary feeling of power; an assurance, creativity and a deep desire to be all you're created to be.

Many women have a tendency to make men extremely fascinating and powerful. But the irony of it all is that you can't have an authentic relationship if you relinquish whom you are, and begin looking at yourself in relation to having someone else to love you - even more than you love yourself.

We go into a relationship looking for love, not realizing that we must bring love with us.

If you're looking for true and lasting love to find you this year, you can start by embracing the qualities that make you special and unique and use them as an asset to attract who and what you want in your life. You will then empower yourself toward your Divine purpose and realize that You Are The One You're Looking For.

Source: Ezine