Love - He Doesn't Love Me - Unrequited Love

Unrequited love can be one of the most painful emotional experiences a woman can go through. "If he doesn't love me, what is their worth living for?" Thoughts like these are all too common, and they can drive us to the edge.

The emotional pain of unrequited love affects both men and women - but for women, it can sometimes be even harder because they (on average) have more socially developed brains and place a higher importance on relationships than men.

So what can a person do about unrequited love?

Here are three strategies to help you cope with unrequited love. This will help to shift your thoughts from "He doesn't love me, life is worthless" to "he doesn't love me, but I don't need his love for my happiness".

Talk with friends about your feelings. It is important that you have someone to talk to. This way, you can work your way through your emotions faster than if you try to resolve this all on your own. Don't use your friends as emotional garbage cans, but as respected and trusted advisors. Listen to their opinions, try to get where they are coming from. Oftentimes, they will say words that you understand, but that aren't really helpful - try to put yourself in their shoes and see things from their point of view, and you might come across something that you've not seen previously. And most importantly: studies have shown that talking about your emotions really does provide emotional relief and helps to easy the hurt.

Try to go out and do things that you enjoy. Now, it's of course not a good idea to go to your favorite ice cream place three times a day and eat 2 pounds of ice cream because it makes you feel better. Go for experiences. Depending upon the stage in which you are in, this might help you. However, if you are in a very depressed state, even going on to fun places might not help, because you will still feel empty and desperate. But it's worth giving a try.

If all else fails - try hypnosis. This might sound outrageous, but it works surprisingly well. With hypnosis, you can clear up emotions that hold you back and move on to the next step in your life. You can get rid of constant nagging thoughts like "he doesn't love me" and instead focus on more helpful and positive things. Because even if it doesn't look that way at all - there are still many beautiful things and people on this planet that make living worthwhile, and you deserve to experience the joy the world has to offer.

Source: Ezine