Love Cramps And How to Breakthrough Them

Opinions kill love. It's a strange irony that having opinions about things important to us can actually stifle the very love we hope our opinions will free up.

But those opinions are a two edged sword.

The first edge is to be the judgment of those around us, including lovers and friends. They become a condition of acceptance and love. Like, if you agree I feel comfortable with you, if you disagree then we are not like minded and I feel uncomfortable. This is conditional Love. Not love at all, emotion really. This is love cramp level one.

The second edge is that what we judge in the world outside of ourselves we judge inside of ourselves. So, as is well known in all circles of wisdom, the World Reflects Us... and what we judge, we create in our children, attract in our partner, become in ourselves. So, by judging the world more using opinions about right and wrong, we self judge more. This is LOVE CRAMP 11.

We cannot love in others what we cannot love in ourselves. But there are many people who believe that by judging something, they eliminate it in themselves. Take violence as a great example.

A person might say, "Violence is Bad" and in saying so, project the idea that, because they judge violence in others, they are immune, free, eliminated from violence themselves. This is not correct.

Nature's Law is clear. Nothing is ever mission it just changes form. So, a person might block their violence to the world in the form of rock throwing, baseball bat hitting or shooting, but have they eliminated their violence or just shoved it into a different form that they call "better."

One guy I met was a non violence practitioner. He hated violence. He hated the people who were being violent. He wanted to protect the whale, the sardine, the butterfly in Botswana, the ant in Antigua. He hated violence and believed he was not violent.

But he was as violent toward others as any baseball bat wielding thug. He just discounted the effect of his viscous thoughts on others by saying they deserved it. He discounted the dark hate he carried inside himself causing loneliness and love cramp for his family with his strict, bi-polar rules. His love cramp was violent and yet, he claimed he was right.

Eliminate Love Cramp...

Many single people have love cramp. They say, "He or she is not my type" and that means they can only love typecast individuals in their deeper heart. This is love cramp because it is a narrow slot through which love can pass in all it's fullness.

There is no pill to eliminate love cramp. It is a heart thing. We must work on love cramp with massage of the mind. Start with nature. Love both creation and destruction in nature. That means appreciating the merit of a dead and dying leaf, animal, tree, environment as being as worthy of your appreciation as the new bud, the puppy, the new forest or specie protection. Learn to welcome creation and destruction as two sides of one thing.

In learning this, you will automatically grow a respect for love. Support and challenge will become a new definition of lovability. You'll see that anything that supports you must also challenge you, and if it doesn't today, it will tomorrow. So, you'll become a wiser, less emotionally bipolar human.

Start by saying "I cannot eliminate a trait" but I can control it. If I value and respect a trait in nature I can value and respect that trait in me. Violence, for example exists, we cannot eliminate the violence we offer others. But we can change the form of it. We can find ways to own our violence without physicalising it. We learn to accept ourselves and so, eliminate love cramps.

Anything that shrinks your view of nature shrinks your love of it. A person who wants to save this, protect that, defend this is doing their part in life balancing someone doing the opposite. There is no progress in this neutrality. If one wants progress in any field one must arbitrate, see two sides first.

Love cramp starts in our opinions of nature, grows into self belief and bipolar opinions about ourselves and therefore the world around us. Hence, we become prisoners of our Love cramp.

Psychologist and therapist try to eliminate bipolar love cramps by teaching people about better right and wrong. This is like depriving a cramping muscle of nourishment. Bipolar is healed when the self-righteous beliefs and opinions about life, nature, self and others are made to balance and therefore neutralise themselves. Bipolar is therefore a common term used to describe a very rigid, huge EGO... something that could benefit or harm anyone.

Lets eliminate love cramps.