We've all done it at some point in our lives. We gave up our wild ways, our party buddies, and everything we thought we held near and dear to us. We changed our career path. Yeah, we've all done it, but why?
I know the ladies reading this article think it's because men are con artists just trying to get into their pants. And although that may be true in some cases, it is not the reason for our long term evolution. The reason we change is very simple...for the love of a woman.
Now granted, we're not going to make these life altering changes for just any woman. We'll only do it for "the woman". Until she comes along, we're stuck in our same old routines and habits. So before you start thinking I don't know what I'm talking about, just wait.
I personally found my woman in July of 2005. Having been divorced for a few years and having sworn off serious relationships forever, I was as content as I wanted to be. Until "she" appeared.
I was working at a local bank as a loan officer and she needed a loan. A coworker had sent her to me to help build my portfolio. She left the bank without seeing me that day because her lunch break was ending. She called from her office to give me the basics of what she wanted and to schedule an appointment. She stood me up. After several more phone calls, she scheduled another appointment. This time I had to cancel because of an "emergency" at the ATM in town. After several more phone calls, we finally met in person. And, DAMN! She was so worth the wait.
The part I left out is that during all of these phone calls, my hard heart was melting...fast. We always seemed to get off the topic of her loan application and just talked. Looking back, I'm surprised neither of us got fired for personal calls.
Anyway, after meeting, her boss needed something notarized and had her call to see if I could come to their office to do it. I went. Of course I went! This angel wanted me to come to her, so I dropped everything and left. While I was there, I left my phone number with the receptionist and told her to pass it along.
I finally got a phone call on Sunday afternoon. Unfortunately, I didn't get home until late Sunday night. So, I called her Monday morning a little after ten to ask her to lunch. She said she had already had lunch. I thought she was just blowing me off, so I asked for supper after work. She said yes! On July 25, 2005, we had our first date.
After we ate, we just rode around talking. We stayed out until two or three in the morning that night and for weeks to follow. And, yes, I mean every night. I finally asked if she wanted to stay the night and promised to be a gentleman. From that first date, we have been inseparable. We were married on October 2, 2005.
We have both changed our careers and friends. She is my best friend, my wife, my lover, my life. She is the only one that could have changed me.
I know there are many guys out there that share a similar story. I also know that there are even more that want to share that story. Men are simple. We want for somebody to love us.
So ladies, here is my advice to you. Be persistent. Be caring. But, don't go out "looking" for a husband. Men can sense desperation, which is why the jerks will say the right things to get into your pants. Speaking of which, make him wait for you. If he's what you are looking for, he'll wait for ten dates or more. If he shares your love of the Lord, he'll actually wait until you get married.
The man that is "looking" for you is out there. You just have to get in front of him so he can see it. Most guys are in the market for a long term, serious relationship even if they won't admit it.
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