Love - 3 Reasons Why You May Not Be Attracting The Right Men

Has it ever occurred to you that there are some women who just seem to attract men wherever they go? They may not be the prettiest women around or the slimmest or the brightest, but they never seem short of male attention. The old saying "Bees around a honey pot", springs to mind.

So why is this do you suppose?

Is it because they always make such an effort with their appearance? Well, no, it can't be, because they attract men even when they're dressed casually. A womans' physicality is only one element that attracts men and men's tastes differ, depending on their individual preference. So blonde, brunette, slim or curvy, we need to work with what we already have.

So, the reason is that all of these women have characteristics that all men find naturally attractive - and this is the reason they are able to attract men despite not even trying to do so.

They may not even be aware of the reason why they're never short of male attention. Some women just possess these characteristics naturally. But most of us have to work at it.

So a couple of ideas:

1. Self Confidence: Oh yes, being confident proves to be a huge asset when attracting the attention of the opposite sex. That's not to say that you should come across as arrogant or a brazen hussy, but a woman who has assurance and self belief is always going to attract more attention than the shrinking violet.

So, you can see that if you are shy and awkward around people - especially men - you will be overlooked in favor of your more confident friends. You will be viewed as withdrawn and reserved, while they will seem approachable and friendly. And don't forget, if the man is a little shy, he may not have the confidence to approach somebody who appears to be unfriendly. He won't realise that you're shy too.

2. Become a good listener: Look, we all love to talk about ourselves and that's fine, but sometimes we need to listen. When someone listens to what we're saying and takes a genuine interest, it makes us feel good. If someone is taking the trouble to put their own desire to speak aside and listen to what we have to say, we immediately feel closer to this person. So in future, spend time listening to someone talk and so when you do have something to say it will be based on something that they are interested in, which will create an immediate bond.

3. Self-Esteem: Being confident and fun to be around is one thing, but you need the self-assurance to back it up. Believing that you are attractive and sexy will affect your posture and demeanour. The woman with a good self-esteem, takes care of herself and makes an effort with her appearance. Her body language is open and friendly and her smile oozes self-confidence and sensuality.

Luckily it is possible to gain confidence and increase your self-esteem. And don't let anyone tell you otherwise because I've done it myself. You can read self-help books or attend confidence building courses, or you could try of subliminal messages.

If you have never tried subliminal messaging, it's similar to hypnosis but without the trance stage. It enables you to replace your previous limiting thoughts - the negative ones - with positive ones. The audio messages are designed to gradually influence your inner most personality traits and can be particularly useful on those established self beliefs that are so hard to change.

Working on a conscious level just doesn't work, so telling yourself over and over that you're confident and attractive just won't cut it. You need to persuade the subconscious mind, that this is what you TRULY believe and subliminal messages are a knockout way to do this.

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