It’s happened to the best of us: You are happily meandering along in a relationship, convinced that everything is moving forward. Then, without warning, you’re dumped and you wonder, “Where were the signs?”
Well, like it or not, there are always signs of an impending breakup; we sometimes just choose to ignore them. But knowing the warning signs can have a plus side for you: If you recognize them early enough, you can take the upper hand by trying to make reparations to the relationship or by canning her first.
Below are nine indications that she's losing interest and withdrawing from you. If she displays one of the indicators below, she might be losing some interest. If she displays two of the indicators below, she is definitely having doubts about you. Three or more?Prepare yourself for a breakup.
1- She calls you and/or returns your calls less frequently.
A woman who is in a happy relationship almost always calls back. So if you notice her phone calls are becoming sparse or she consistently takes a long time to call you back, she might be trying to put some distance between you. Do not make the mistake of thinking she’s playing phone games. A woman sometimes plays games in the early stages of dating, but generally not once she’s in a relationship.
2- She prefers to go out with her girlfriends.
I’m not referring to a girls’ night out here and there with her posse. But if she consistently leaves you at home to gallivant in nightclubs with her girlfriends, then she is definitely losing interest in you.It may be that she wants time away from you, or that she is actually out perusing her options. Either way, it doesn’t bode well for your relationship.
3- She thwarts your attempts at PDA.
If she once allowed you to kiss her and hold her hand in public, but now squirms away from PDA, she is definitely having her doubts about you.If she does this, she actually doesn’t want other people to know you are together, which is the first step toward an actual breakup.
4- She avoids referring to you as her boyfriend.
If she went from introducing you as her boyfriend to just using your first name, you can be pretty certain something has changed in her mindset. It may even be on a subconscious level, but this definitely means you have been demoted from boyfriend status in her mind.
5- Her career suddenly becomes a priority.
Has she started working late every night? Does she disappear to the office on the weekend?Everyone can have a busy day, week or even month. But if she is serious about you, she’ll make time for you. Enough said.
6- She draws attention to the views you don't have in common.
A woman in love is usually willing to overlook a man’s differing political or social views. So if you find that she’s constantly bringing up your incompatible views, pay attention.She is probably starting to question your long-term compatibility, so note that a breakup may be impending.
7- She highlights mismatched long-term expectations.
Does she constantly mention your conflicting plans of where to live and how many children to have (if any)?Maybe she does actually see your long-term expectations as different, and this is definitely something to consider before moving forward. But this could also be her way of preparing you for a breakup.
8- She loses interest in sex.
Yes, you could blame work-induced fatigue or general routine for her lack of interest in sex, but you’d probably be kidding yourself.When a woman pulls away from sex, especially in the early stages of a relationship (we’re not talking about marriage here), she is often also pulling away from you emotionally. Take notice.
9- She picks fights with you.
If she unleashes her wrath on you just for leaving a couple of dirty dishes in the sink or for leaving the toilet seat up, listen closely. She is clearly bottling up some serious anger toward you, and that’s why the littlest thing can set her off. If she does this often, she may even be hoping you’ll take the bait and break up with her first. Consider your options.