A very clever chap called Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages (Northfield Publishing). He reckons that people show their love in five different ways, namely through words, touch, giving of their time, giving gifts and service.
Say for example, you spoke the love language of words. This would mean it would be important that people express their love for you verbally. However, you may well end up with a man who speaks a completely different love language – perhaps the language of service. For him, it wouldn't be important that you say 'I love you' everyday, however, what would make him feel special is if he came home to find that you'd done the dishes.
To figure out what kind of girlfriend you are in regards to what your love language is and the kind of attention you need, simply click on the statement that most resonates with how you feel:
Words
I feel most loved when I'm given compliments or people express just how grateful they are for the things I do. Hearing things like 'You look really beautiful in blue', or 'Nobody else could've done this job like you', really make my day.
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Touch
I feel most loved when people express their love for me through touch. A big hug, a kiss, having my hand held... It’s things like that that make me feel truly special.
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Time
I feel most loved when people go out of their way to spend time with me. If you can sit with me and give me your undivided attention and just listen, I feel like we’re truly connecting.
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Favours
I feel most loved when people give up their time to help me out. Just simple things like doing the dishes, taking out the trash or mowing the lawn makes me feel like I’m cared for and loved.
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Gifts
I feel most loved when people give me gifts. They don’t have to be big, but tangible expressions of love are important to me. Things like getting a bunch of flowers or discovering a chocolate under my pillow.