"Forget about it."
These are three of the scariest words that a wife could say to a husband. This short, powerful phrase is best used when the wife is fed up with her man wasting time and saying something but not following through and doing it.
Instead of nagging the man to go about doing it, if the woman says these three words, followed by something like,
- "I'll get [another male] to do it. He's more reliable."
- "The moment's passed. You had your chance."
- "You obviously can't see how important this is to me."
Just try and stop the man from doing whatever you want him to do ASAP.
Can you see what's so powerful about the three statements above?
- There's nothing more soul crushing to a husband than getting another man to do something for you. We're your man. That's our job. We are not going to let another man do our job.
- The man can't do it anymore. You've taken away the privilege from him. He will want to do it, but if you say this, he won't be able to. That will make him want to do it more. He might even argue with you to let him do it!
- You're saying that your husband doesn't care about you. That will cause him to defend himself. Of course he cares about you. This will get his attention and make him see how important whatever you wanted him to do was to you.
Of course, if your husband has legitimate reasons as to why he couldn't do something, hear him out. If you use these three words when he physically couldn't do something, then you'll just come off across as being a bitch, to be blunt.
Use this if he's being lazy and you want to scare him a bit to show that you're serious about something. My wife uses it on me when I say that I'll take her out shopping on the weekend. When I forgot about the sale that she wanted to go to, she got upset and said, "forget about it. I'll just go out with my girlfriend's next time."
I took her out the week after and did the whole good husband routine, ie. carrying bags, seeing whether her bum looked big or not, etc.
This technique is powerful, but don't overuse it! It works well when you're genuinely angry. We may look dumb, but we can see through pretend anger.
Jack Keys is married to a beautiful woman with whom he has a gorgeous daughter. Within 6 months of being married, they were already on the rocks. Using his degree in psychology, Jack analyzed what was wrong with their marriage and brought back their marriage into safe territory.
If understanding men is an issue for you, download Jack's free report that he wrote to try and help women learn about and solve men issues that put stress on marriage, such as what men really want out of a marriage (it's not sex, love or children), why your man is falling out of love with you and why he's ignoring what you're asking him to do.
Source: Ezine