How to Read His Body Language

Six telltale signs a guy is into you.

- Amber Madison, BettyConfidential.com

Is he just being friendly, or does he want you? Or does he want your friend? Oh the questions that keep us up at night, keep us talking on the phone for hours, and prevent us from being productive at work. Well, the good news, fair ladies, is that if you learn to read his body language you’ll have your answer. No more painful nights (and days) spent wondering if he really is into you. Here are six ways to interpret what his body is telling you, even when he doesn’t say a word:

1. He looks at you more than twice. If you’re out somewhere and a guy looks at you a time or two, he could just be checking out his surroundings. But if you catch him looking at you three or more times, it’s a sure sign he’s into you. According to Janine Driver author of the bestselling book, You Say More Than You Think, “Even if he doesn’t approach you, if he’s looked at you more than twice, he likes you.” So if you think the guy checking you out is cute, walk over to him. “If you’re worried about what to say, tell him you and your friend have a bet and you need him to be the tie-breaker,” says Driver. “And the bet can be about anything, even something like ‘Do girls who wear green on St. Patty’s Day get hit on more?’”

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2. He’s all up in your grill. When a guy is interested he’s going to get in your personal space and put his face close to yours when he’s talking to you. How close is close? According to Driver, closer than normal means anything less than about 18 inches. Specifics aside, if you feel like he’s in your space or closer than most people get when talking to you, trust your instincts – he probably is.

3. He’s talking slow and soft. According to Greg Hartley, a graduate of the U.S. Army Interrogation School and the author of Date Decoder, “When you’re attracted to someone you talk 25% slower and softer than you normally would.” So if he’s talking like he wants you to hang on his every word, the truth is he does – and it’s likely he’s wanting to hang on every word of yours, too.

4. He keeps touching you. An obvious and unmistakable sign that a guy is into you is if he keeps touching you. Pay special attention if he cups your shoulder with his hand. “Shoulder-cupping is a very sexual touch because his hand is around your shoulder the same way it would be around your breast,” says Driver. In other words, if his hand is around your shoulder, he may be subconsciously wishing it were around your breast instead.

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5. His pupils are dilated. When you’re attracted to someone, your body physically changes. “Your pupils dilate to take in more information, your eyelids get heavier, your blood starts moving and you get more color in your face, and your lips even get fuller,” says Hartley. Notice if a guy seems to have a healthy glow when he’s talking to you. If he does, it’s likely a sign that he’s interested. Of course, if you’re making him blush that’s another clear sign that he's attracted to you.

6. He points his belly button at you. “You point your belly button towards people you like and trust,” says Driver. This is a key thing to keep in mind if there’s a guy talking to a group of you and your friends and you're not sure who he’s interested in. Where his belly button is pointing is where his interest lies – and interestingly, that may not be the same person he’s spending the most time talking to. “You have to listen to what his belly button is saying,” says Driver, a trick she calls “navel intelligence.” And not to point out the obvious –or the obscene – but when he's pointing his belly button at you, something else of his is pointing at you too. Coincidence? I think not.

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BettyConfidential’s Sexpert Amber Madison is a sex educator and author ofHooking Up: A Girl's All-Out Guide to Sex and Sexuality, andTalking Sex With Your Kids, which was released this month.