As Cosmo's Guide to Red-Hot Sex explains, you have to rotate different lovemaking modes to keep sex exciting.
Why limit your experiences to standard fare when there's a whole sensual smorgasbord to sample? Mixing up your sex routine brings mystery and adventure to your love life, two qualities that keep things fresh between the sheets. Start by indulging in these seven sex styles. Then check out the brand-spanking-new Cosmo's Guide to Red-Hot Sex for tons of hot how-to's.
TAKE-YOUR-SWEET-TIME SEX
When you have the gift of time, languishing in supersensory, soulful lovemaking can be a rhapsodic revelation...and a relationship booster. With sensual sex, it's not all about where you and your guy are going but the process that gets you there. "When you slow down and attempt to keep your orgasm at bay, you're more focused on exploring every inch of each other's bodies and savoring your time together," says Deb Levine, author of The Joy of Cybersex.
The emotional benefits are long-lasting too. "Knowing that he cares enough to lavish his love on you for hours, and that you're his number one priority, builds confidence and security," says Levine. "Plus, your bond in general will feel more intimate because you've made the bedroom a place for enjoying each other, not just sexual sensations." LIGHT-SPEED SEX
A quickie is kind of like an earthquake: It gets your adrenaline rushing, is over in a flash, and leaves you weak in the knees. Besides releasing your pent-up lust, initiating a quickie can be the ultimate compliment to your guy because it shows how deeply you desire him.
In addition, when he's had a stressful day, a fast and furious romp really takes the edge off. Put simply: "Sometimes guys want to take their time, and sometimes they just want to get their rocks off," says William Fitzgerald, PhD, a retired sex therapist in San Jose, California. When you can tell he's in a horny, hasty mood, don't bother fully undressing — just pull his penis out of the opening in his boxers and push your panties aside. All you need for successful speed sex is lube, says Los Angeles sex therapist Donald Etkes, PhD. "It's your best friend when you don't have time to get completely warmed up."
SHOW-OFF SEX
You may think it would be easier to give a speech in the presence of 500 people than to masturbate in front of your man, but taking that plunge may be worth it — experts say that watching a woman pleasure herself is near the top of most men's fantasy wish lists. But it's not just a very personal peep show; it's a chance to teach him exactly how you like to be manhandled.
Revealing to your guy how you master your own domain is one of the most secretive and intimate things you can do.
COMFORT SEX
Anyone with a pulse would be crazy not to crave a hot-and-spicy sack session. But sometimes all you want is the sexual equivalent of mac and cheese: It may not be exciting, but it makes you feel so good. "People have sex for a lot of different reasons, and one of them is to be soothed and comforted," says Chicago marital-sex therapist Michael Seiler, PhD. "Making each other feel loved and cared for is the most powerful way to bring the psychological and physical elements of your relationship together."
You may think it would be easier to give a speech in the presence of 500 people than to masturbate in front of your man, but taking that plunge may be worth it — experts say that watching a woman pleasure herself is near the top of most men's fantasy wish lists. But it's not just a very personal peep show; it's a chance to teach him exactly how you like to be manhandled.
Revealing to your guy how you master your own domain is one of the most secretive and intimate things you can do.
COMFORT SEX
Anyone with a pulse would be crazy not to crave a hot-and-spicy sack session. But sometimes all you want is the sexual equivalent of mac and cheese: It may not be exciting, but it makes you feel so good. "People have sex for a lot of different reasons, and one of them is to be soothed and comforted," says Chicago marital-sex therapist Michael Seiler, PhD. "Making each other feel loved and cared for is the most powerful way to bring the psychological and physical elements of your relationship together."
WILD-KINGDOM SEX
It's the raw, primal, grunting kind of sex that wakes the neighbors, scares house pets, and rattles bed frames — the more writhing and bucking, the better.
Any animalistic sex session starts, fittingly, on all fours (aka doggie-style). Grab his hands and wrap them around your waist — a cue that you want him to hold on and thrust — and he'll answer your call of the wild. Keep your neck down. It'll help you loosen up all the way down your spine so you can move your tush with gusto.
SURRENDER SEX
Men are conquest-loving creatures, which is why they get so hot when you let them take over. "If he feels like he's at the top of his game, your surrender is a power trip and a huge turn-on," says Fitzgerald.
During foreplay, let your legs fall open and hold the headboard or pillows above you so your whole body is exposed to him. Then invite him to slide on top of you. Meet his thrusts halfway by rocking your pelvis upward against his and lifting your legs in the air with your feet spread far apart. This gives him room to maneuver his body and alternate between deep thrusting and short pumping. Then drape your legs over his shoulders so he can grab your ankles and position them where he wants them. "Tell him you want him to make you come," says Etkes. "It says that you want him running the show because he has the skills to get you there."
It's the raw, primal, grunting kind of sex that wakes the neighbors, scares house pets, and rattles bed frames — the more writhing and bucking, the better.
Any animalistic sex session starts, fittingly, on all fours (aka doggie-style). Grab his hands and wrap them around your waist — a cue that you want him to hold on and thrust — and he'll answer your call of the wild. Keep your neck down. It'll help you loosen up all the way down your spine so you can move your tush with gusto.
SURRENDER SEX
Men are conquest-loving creatures, which is why they get so hot when you let them take over. "If he feels like he's at the top of his game, your surrender is a power trip and a huge turn-on," says Fitzgerald.
During foreplay, let your legs fall open and hold the headboard or pillows above you so your whole body is exposed to him. Then invite him to slide on top of you. Meet his thrusts halfway by rocking your pelvis upward against his and lifting your legs in the air with your feet spread far apart. This gives him room to maneuver his body and alternate between deep thrusting and short pumping. Then drape your legs over his shoulders so he can grab your ankles and position them where he wants them. "Tell him you want him to make you come," says Etkes. "It says that you want him running the show because he has the skills to get you there."
FEMALE-DOMINATION SEX
If he's been doing all the pouncing and pawing lately, take the reins. But a truly titillating takeover has to be authentic and not staged, so wait until you're really randy, straddle him, and say, "I'd love to be in charge tonight." Then gently grab his penis and rub it around your clitoris as if he were your personal sex toy.
Once you slip him in, pin his hands to the bed or tie him to the headboard with scarves or stockings while you grind against his lap in a circular motion. Or try this hot move: Stick your breasts in his face and instruct him to flick your nipples with his tongue — the only part of him that's free to move. He'll happily submit to your sexy request.
Another in-command position: girl-on-top 69. Rub your hot spot against his tongue and pivot your hips back and forth in sync with the lip service you're giving him.
If he's been doing all the pouncing and pawing lately, take the reins. But a truly titillating takeover has to be authentic and not staged, so wait until you're really randy, straddle him, and say, "I'd love to be in charge tonight." Then gently grab his penis and rub it around your clitoris as if he were your personal sex toy.
Once you slip him in, pin his hands to the bed or tie him to the headboard with scarves or stockings while you grind against his lap in a circular motion. Or try this hot move: Stick your breasts in his face and instruct him to flick your nipples with his tongue — the only part of him that's free to move. He'll happily submit to your sexy request.
Another in-command position: girl-on-top 69. Rub your hot spot against his tongue and pivot your hips back and forth in sync with the lip service you're giving him.