Everybody experiences jealousy from time to time. However, there are some instances where jealousy can become unhealthy and can harm your personal relationships. Sometimes, being jealous can actually ruin relationships. With a few simple steps and a lot of patience, you can overcome your jealousy and start having a healthy relationship.
- Step 1
It is likely that if you are jealous in a relationship, then this is a problem with yourself and not with your partner. Identify why you become jealous. Were you hurt in the past? Were you once neglected by a partner? Are there things about you that you do not like about yourself? What situations trigger this jealousy and what can be done to avoid these situations? Spend an afternoon or evening seriously thinking about these questions. You need to do some soul-searching before you can come to terms with your jealousy.
- Step 2
If you are insecure and this is why you become jealous, then you need to begin feeling happy about who you are. Write down a list of all the things that are great about you. Keep this list as a reference whenever you are feeling insecure.
- Step 3
Next, write a list of all the things that you dislike about yourself. Work to change the things that you dislike about yourself. You want your list to be shorter (fewer things on it) so that you can stop being jealous in a relationship. If you don't love yourself, how do you expect anybody else to? Get healthy, start a hobby, finish a goal. Do the things on your list and you will be a happier person.
- Step 4
Learn how to trust yourself and your partner. Be aware of the powers of the subconscious. If you constantly think that your partner is going to cheat, then this negative energy could be the driving force that actually does cause him or her to eventually cheat. Think positively. If you are not confident that your partner will remain faithful, then this says a lot about both you and your choice in a partner. You should set better standards for yourself and choose someone who you can trust.