A family can break down for all sorts of reasons. This is usually brought on by a series of events over time, not just in one day or from one issue. Broken family ties can be repaired if all concerned want to put in the work needed to make that repair. The following steps will help you in this quest.
- Step 1
Apologize. Fixing the problem is a two-way street. Even if you feel the other person acted worse or wronged you, you can start the process of repairing broken family ties by apologizing for your part in the fiasco.
- Step 2
Call on all holidays. Holidays are represented by family gatherings and gift giving. Families may forget one another all year long, but on a holiday, even an estranged love one will be thinking about you. Beat them to the phone and make the first call to help repair the break down.
- Step 3
Send pictures of the kids. If you don't have kids, send pictures of yourself or your pets. Write a brief description about what is going on in your life and what the family member is missing. Be nice and friendly.
- Step 4
Forgive with more than words. When the other person apologizes, don't bring up the issue(s) again. Act as if the problem that led to the broken family tie disappeared and no longer affects you. Over time the issues will dissipate.
- Step 5
Listen to the family. There may be something that appears worse than it is. The only way to get over this hump is to listen. Actively listen and repeat back to the person what they are saying so they know you have understood them and are truly listening.
- Step 6
Go to family mediation. When all else fails, ask someone to help your family repair broken family ties.