QUESTION: Why is my husband more considerate of other people than he is of me (his wife)?
ANSWER: This is not an unusual situation. You are not alone in your feelings. Many times married couples are guilty of treating others better than their spouse. In fact, sometimes we treat strangers better than we treat our spouse.
You did not mention if you have ever tried to talk to your husband about your feelings. One way to help him understand how you feel is to give him a word picture. Many times men respond better to a concrete example.
For instance, you might say to him, "I feel like a flat tire, very deflated, when you treat others better than you treat me." You probably will have to remember a specific incident and share exactly what happened or what was said. Remember to do this in a kind and courteous way. He may not realize this is happening.
We all need to be reminded about the definition of love. Love is kind and patient. We often are much more patient with others than with our spouse.
Another definition of love is that it is not rude. We would not think of interrupting others or taking away the remote control, but we might be doing that to our spouse.
Love also means we are slow to anger. We usually try to control our temper around others. We may even bite our tongue and count to 10. But often, we will blurt out the first retort that comes to mind if our spouse makes us angry.
You will want to show your spouse as much consideration as possible and be ready to pay him a compliment when he does something nice for you. Your positive reinforcement will show him how much you appreciate his consideration.